More football this evening. I've never stood at pitches as long. I like alot of the people at matches just don't get the 'football fever' they seem to have. My daughter is able to play well but I wouldn't care if she played badly once she was happy and had her friends. I used to know a guy that was absolutely unathletic and spent his time on the bench. He was obsessed with football and went off to every match and training delighted with himself even though he rarely got playing time. Everyone would be so much happier of they were like him. We're all obsessed with results not quite reaching the level of America where second place is first loser. The process isn't valued -what if you like writing but write terribly should you stop?What if you come last in every race but love how you feel after running, should you go back to sitting on the couch? I find it best to pick your audience . Talk to only the ones who will not critisie your efforts. They don't need to cheerlead , they just need to not rain on your parade. You will do many things badly before you get to be competant. When you were learning how to walk it didn't bother you. Why does that change as we get older? When do we start to be self concious of everything and stop saying 'look at me' for the most inane things ? It's sad but some people do grow up doing what they loved as a child. The rest of us become convinced that our interests will never make us money. Because money making is highly valued in our society , not so much caring roles or self sufficency. Don't get me wrong-I'm far from self suffiecient.
Without support , materially and emotionally, I would not be in as stable a position as I am. I'm not living in poverty nor in luxury. I have enough, more than enough by Third World standards . I don't have any debt-this is bad in some ways as I have no credit rating. I've had short term loans from family members wich I've paid back and spent all my savings before. I've had jobs since my early teens but a few personal issues set me back. I'm an eighties child. I didn't have internet to online shop or a mobile phone until I was twenty. It wasn't even a smart one. My stream of income stopped for time. I had always saved some money and spent a bit at a time, lived at home without having to pay rent ot utilities.
My family were generous with birthday money, useful gifts and letting me stay in their houses on holidays. I did appreciate it but maybe didn't have the understanding that all families are not this generous or able to be.I didn't travel abroad until I was 20 or own a car until I was 25( this is when I learned to drive). I really didn't have to find a way to take care of all my own expenses ( and my daughters ) until I was in my early twenties. It's an intersting thing to have to think of everything. The fridge/freezer don't fill themselves, the electricity gets cut off if you don't pay the bill, clothes do not wash and dry themselves and you have to order the oil to heat the house or bring in the turf.I've made mistakes alright but have never been destitute. If you are that low it must be so hard to pull yourslef back up. Theres a few pages on FB about living on less than a £1 a day and saving money. Some of the posts are so sad-'I've x amount of money to do me until the end of the week . I only have 3 tins of tuna and a packet of pasta. What should I buy?
They often get referred to foodbanks. It's sad we need these in the First World. In fairness I could never see something like this happening for me.I'm fortunate enough to have enough safety nets around me and options to access some money if I needed it.
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